OK, you’ve ordered two wedding gifts, two shower gifts, five graduation gifts, three birthday gifts, one Father’s Day gift and two baby gifts. You’ve combed the Registries, made your selections and entered your credit card information and shipping information more times than you can remember. Your pocketbook is lighter; the day is half gone, you’re exhausted and there’s still so much to do. Rather than experiencing the joy of giving, you’re relieved to finally check these things off your list.
Give Yourself a Gift
Isn’t it time you thought about giving yourself a gift? Not just one gift but the first of several gifts. Gifts that lift your spirits—feed your soul—and enrich your life. This gift to yourself is not a day to run errands or attend meetings. It’s not a day to mail packages or answer e-mails. No, it’s a day for you—a rare gift you get to choose.
What would such a day look like for you? A day when you’re free to go where you want to go and do what you want to do? There is nothing you must do or should do. You’ve already arranged for childcare if that’s part of your life. Your only task for the day is to do no work. Instead, you’ll do anything you please that promises to rejuvenate or invigorate your mind and spirit.
Plan Your Gift
What do you think you would do? Can you even think in those terms? Where would you go and what would you take with you? Would you want to be mainly outdoors or in? What’s been missing from your life you’d want to include? Who would you want to be with? Who would you not want to be with? The more difficult it is for you to think in terms of giving yourself such a gift indicates how much you need it.
As I plan my first gift for later in June, I’ll begin by blocking out the day on my calendar. I know I’ll travel light in all ways taking with me a sun hat or umbrella, a credit card and a few dollars in cash. I’ll wear comfortable walking shoes. To paraphrase John Keats, “Give me beautiful gardens, time to think and be grateful, places to walk, a book to read, a journal to write in, and ice cream to celebrate a day well-lived.”
Reflect and Refresh
When your first gift to yourself has been given, enjoyed and behind you, think about who you chose to be with, where you went and what made this day memorable. What will you do differently next time? This gift to yourself can—and needs to be—repeated. Think of it as a day of freedom, a day of bliss, a day you deserve to have. The encouragement to make this ritual part of your life is my gift to you. Enjoy!
© Judy DeLapa 2017