So what’s that supposed to mean? If you’ve been to London, you may have seen the sign as you enter The Tube, “Mind the Gap!” This is to caution riders to beware of the gap between the platform and the train as you step from one to the other lest you step into the gap.
Today I’m using “Mind the Gap” as a metaphor for some of the gaps we have in our lives—gaps between where we are versus where we want to be. There are all sorts of gaps—in our performance, self-care, relationships, finances and even our “talk versus our walk.” I encourage you to give some serious thought to where the gaps are in your life and what actions are necessary to close the gaps. If you have no intention to act, then there’s really no reason to read further—is there?
Facing our inability to get things done can be humbling. It can also be life-giving. On January 1 of this year, I set aside my coaching and consulting hat and prepared to move into my next career phase where I would focus on my legacy and doing things I’d pushed aside for too long. I envisioned my newfound time would magically snap into place things like a totally organized household, time to travel, new friendships and time to be creative. I’ve made decent gains on several but a totally organized household? Not! So with a healthy dose of humility and optimistic expectations, I made the call to hire a “pro” who’s making a business of doing for others what they cannot do for themselves. Bottom line is this: There’s more than one way to close a gap, and I am totally intent on getting it done.
Over lunch last week with three new friends, I asked for their input on gaps they’re experiencing. One had moved back to the U.S. after living in Europe and was troubled by the lack of public transportation in our suburb that’s about more than just buying another car. For their girls, accustomed to hopping on the train just outside their door, it took away their freedom. To her, the gap is all about not finding the sense of “belonging” she had hoped for in America. A second woman is concerned about her first child selecting a college far from home and rocking the family dynamics. Will this college freshman have the maturity required to self-manage her freedom, studies and social life hundreds of miles from home? And the third is experiencing anxiety over the looming “empty nest.” Should they put their home up for sale now while the market’s hot? Where will they go? My question about gaps raised their awareness and made them think. After awareness, the next step is intention—then action. The alternative is being “stuck!”
Let me ask you: “Where are the gaps in your life? What needs to be addressed? What would it feel like to close those gaps? Can you do it yourself or is this a time to invest in a professional?”
© Judy DeLapa March 2016