Regrets, I’ve had a few But then again, too few to mention…
From “My Way” by Frank Sinatra as written by Paul Anka
We all make mistakes—we all have struggles and suffer losses. But none of us are our mistakes or our struggles. As best we can, we play the hand that was dealt us using the attributes, gifts, beliefs, and resources we’ve been given. Using the best within us we have the power to shape our days, redirect our future and be a positive force in the world. It’s never too late to take a step in the right direction.
Take a Step in the Right Direction
To begin, you must let go of blame, recrimination, attacking, judging, sarcasm and self-loathing. Thus, this will enable you to become the person you say you want to become. Life is too short and too precious to start or end our days with regret. Following is a listing of regrets I want to guard against. These will not be the same as your list. However, let mine serve as a model for you to develop your own list. This exercise has the potential to pay dividends the rest of your life.
- Spending major time with the wrong people. Who are the right people? The right people are the ones who respect who I am and what I stand for. They are of like mind on integrity, personal growth, ethical behavior and the value of work. We exchange energy and add value to each other when we are together. We are grateful and excited about each other’s dreams and achievements. We support each other in our losses but we avoid making our losses the focus of our relationships.
- Spending time with people who wallow in their brokenness or who make excuses for staying stuck.
- Sharing ideas I’m excited about with people who aren’t big enough to accept or embrace the possibility of my moving forward.
- Having people in my circle whose attitude is “Life is all about me,”. As well as, people who are too small to embrace what life offers or asks of them. It’s imperative we know when it’s time to move on.
- Failing to recognize and implement my own strengths and gifts to add value to the lives of others.
- Lacking the courage to put forth my best ideas to leaders who can make my ideas better and leverage them to benefit people and projects which neither of us can do alone.
- Failing to be more intentional—daily—about blocking out time to do the things that matter most. Prioritizing—adhering to my agenda, managing my calendar and setting up “distraction-free zones.”
- Making apologies or holding back in taking control of my own life or not having the courage to do so.
- Failing to cherish and express my love and appreciation for family and friends God has so generously placed in my life.
You and I are the product of who we spend time with, the books we read, the thoughts we have, the decisions we make and the actions we take. Neither God nor anyone else ever promised life would be easy. All I can tell you is that when we give it our very best, it’s definitely worth it.
© Judith DeLapa High-Impact 2017