(As published in Cascade Life magazine February 2014)
To most people, the idea of designing their life is totally foreign. They wake up each morning and simply see what happens. What happens in most cases is pretty much the same today as yesterday. Granted, that’s one way to live your life. Let me suggest another way: Start today intentionally designing a better life—your ideal life—one that’s in alignment with the vision you create.
I, like so many others, spent the first half of my life trying to please others, only to realize the futility of it all. While others were growing, moving forward and moving on, I was inadvertently not doing any of those things.
Once I allowed myself to detach enough to get in touch with my own values and develop a vision of the person I wanted to be, then I was able to take the first steps forward. I soon realized that I would have to make some changes and try new things in order to acquire the knowledge I needed to serve the people I wanted to serve. There were a few major obstacles: I’d need another degree, I’d have to learn how to use a computer and the university of my choice was 120 miles away. Rather than focusing on the thousands of miles I would commute, I focused on the vision and the reward. The key to overcoming obstacles—any obstacles—is this: Work to your vision, not from your circumstances.
Getting what you want from life is about commitment and persistence, but before you can persist, you have to take the first step. That’s what I had to do—that’s what you’ll have to do. You’ll also have to constantly re-write your goals to align with your vision. If you’re bogged down by self-limiting beliefs that hold you back, you’ll simply have to cast them aside. Self-limiting beliefs have no place in an ideal life! Once you commit to your vision, that’s when everything will begin to change for you. The freedom and energy you unleash will change your life.
I’ve had coaching clients make remarkable changes in their lives—in all cases these were changes they wanted desperately to make, but they couldn’t make these changes alone. The ideas were theirs, but the passion, momentum and persistence to “win” came from coaching—things we talked about within the safety and confidential setting of the coaching environment. Coaching allowed them to see how to become who they wanted to be, and the work they had to do to align their lives with their goals, vision and dreams.
Coaching comes with no guarantees. In all cases, the client sets the agenda—the client does the work. It is the role of the coach to listen, ask powerful questions and be the rudder that steers the ship toward the desired port.
Of the hundreds of people who read this article, only a few will choose to take the next step in designing their ideal life. Will one of them be you?
© Judy DeLapa March 2014